Single parenting versus double parenting. Which is a better suited environment to raise a successful child in? With America’s increasing divorce rate, this has become a reoccurring heated debate. “Everything depends on upbringing”. – Leo Tolstoy, War and Peace. Why is the question focused on the number of parents in the household rather than effective parenting techniques? Across America, the percent of families where children have two parents, instead of one has dramatically decreased over the past decade.
According to a 2012 December issue of The Washington Times fifteen million U. S. children, or 1 in 3 live without a father and almost five million without a mother. In most cases, not all, single parent households are in lower socioeconomic status. Sadly, less than 50% of custodial parents receive full child support; as a result, these families are more likely to live below the poverty line. Children may engage in delinquent behavior-stealing selling drugs, to compensate for their single parents’ financial short coming’s.
In 2010, the National Survey of Families and Households analyzed data of children’s outcomes from families of single parents, biological parent, and step parent- grades, drug use, age, and age of sexual activity. The results revealed children raised in a single parent or divorced parent home progressed worse in comparison to children raised with both parents. “The more the merrier! ” Social Scientist Bradford Wilcox, suggested children raised in families with both parents are more likely to become college graduates.
There is also less of a chance they will be teenage parents, physically or sexually abused, use drugs, and alcohol. There is also a slim chance they will be raised in poverty. Due to mothers playing the role of a nurturer and fathers being more so the disciplinary figure children receive important interactions from both sexes which is vital for their development. With both parents in the household the child has a better bond with each parent. Two parent, two incomes therefore, the child is more financially stable. Some believe a child raised with both parents in a healthy relationship make wiser relationship decisions.
Through the example set by their parents, as adults these children are less likely to be divorced. Despite the income difference, if the double parents’ relationship is dysfunctional, the child’s welfare is affected. Unhappily married parents had children that were more likely to binge drink; Children raised in high conflict can become hyper-vigilant in reaction to perceived conflict or threats. Being around violence and conflict can cause children to become hostile and aggressive in their interaction with others.
On the contrast, being in a hostile environment can also result in a child having twitches at any loud noise, introverted personality, and the fear of being married as an adult. Not to mention emotional issues, the child may feel they are the reason their parents may not be happy or they are the source of the arguments. In return they develop inner conflict with themselves and low self – esteem. The child may become very passive at the first sight of any conflict, which can result in being used and taken advantage of.