Throughout the 20 years of my life, there have been many Agents of Socialization. From the start, my Mother was the one who shaped my beliefs and behavior as a child. At a very young age, since I was the only child, and she was a single parent, she taught me almost everything I needed to know as a kid. At that point in time, she was my Mother and my Father. She taught me various values, such as, the values of working hard to get what I want, and the values of doing the right thing and making the right decisions, not only because it’s the right thing to do, but because it would make me a better person.
Of course, as a kid, my Mother taught me the norms and folkways of society. Like, having manners out in public, being respectful to my elders, and she even taught me some old-fashioned folkways, norms that were more common back in the day, such as holding the door open for a lady, or addressing men or women as Ma’am, or Sir. My Mother’s parenting style was an Authoritative Style. She wasn’t exactly strict, but she wasn’t too soft either. Her parenting style made me the person I am today, and I have to admit that she did a pretty good job. As I got older, I began to understand the troubles of being a single parent.
Her struggles became my struggles, so I was forced to grow up slightly faster than the normal kid, while still maintaining my childhood. During my school years, I had taken everything my Mother had taught me and applied it there. I had plenty of friends growing up. My friends were and still are a huge part of my life, because they influence and reflect the type of person that I am. My group of friends were pretty normal, we just liked having fun, and trying new things. Most of my friends were older, and with me not having a father figure, I looked up to a few of my friends.
They taught me what my mother couldn’t and what my father failed to. Some of my friends didn’t have a father figure either, they learned on their own or was taught by someone else, so we had plenty in common. I like to say that over the past few years, my friends were the ones who helped mold me into who I am. We only hang out with people who reflect ourselves. We all did various activities, but the one I had always loved when I was a kid was playing video games. I had played tons of Video Games, and I was known at school as a hardcore Gamer. That was one of my many Achieved Statuses.
In High School, I had made a name for myself, even though I wasn’t trying to. I was known as a player because I had quite a few girlfriends over the years, and I suppose I was charming. To the guys of the school, it was a good thing. To some of the girls, it was not good at all. The status that I had obtained, in my eyes, was really cool, in some ways. Towards the end of High School, I began to work at my first job. Having a girlfriend at the time, it was quite difficult for me to make time for her because I was working and going to school simultaneously.
My role as a boyfriend became harder and harder for me to fulfill because of the circumstances. I was feeling role strain, and the situation almost ended my relationship with my Girlfriend. With school, work, and being in a relationship, it was extremely hard for me to juggle everything without slacking on one of them. Since I was working, I was often really tired in school, which caused some of my grades to drop, and sometimes, since I was going to school, I couldn’t work as much as I liked. Naturally, this was still causing problems with me and my girlfriend, because I rarely had time for her, and I didn’t even have time for my friends.
I had many roles to fulfill and this role conflict caused many issues, and had me quite stressed out. After graduation, things started to slow down, and I eventually had everything I had before I started working. Everything was intact and I continued to live my life the way I had learned to live it while I was growing up. I’ve had numerous influences in my life and I couldn’t be more thankful for the people and things that have helped make me who I am. Without them, I wouldn’t have been able to write this paper today.